When was the last time you did something to make yourself happy?
When was the last time you made yourself proud?
When was the last time when you were happy with yourself?
I know , you find it's hard to remember. Because we often focus on pleasing others or taking care of others. Actually we are taught to please others from our childhood. There are many people who are trying to please others & expecting others to do same for them.
No one has ever taught us to love ourself. If we did then it is termed as an act of selfishness. We have been taught selfishness is a bad quality.
Life: Have you ever noticed a person who is sitting alone on a beach, who is eating alone in the restaurant, who is traveling alone, if yes, then by looking at them you must have pitied them, you must have felt sad for them by thinking how lonely they are, But actual reality can be different. In reality, they must be enjoying their own company, they must be enjoying their personal time and privacy, Travelling, eating and enjoying with friends or others can be really very rewarding and enjoyable, but Being alone and enjoying your own self can also be rewarding and joyful.
Being with friends and loved ones is the best thing in the world, but knowing your own self is also very important, when you stay alone, when you travel alone when you move out of your house alone with no support at that time you know yourself more, you know your strength and weakness, every time when you stay alone and do something alone you return home becoming stronger, Travelling isn’t the only time being alone is a valuable experience, Being alone and happy can be powerful experience at any aspect of your life, staying and enjoying moments with your loved ones can be the best feeling you can ever have, but staying alone can also be the happiest moment of your life.
Every individual has different meaning or perspective related to happiness, some feel that staying with friends is the most joyful moment, some feel that staying with family is the most peaceful moment and some says that staying with a partner, girlfriend or boyfriend is the best moment, everyone has their own viewpoint related to happiness, no matter what is your view, the only thing which actually matters is to be happy, happiness is what matters the most, whether you are with your family, friends or alone, being happy or staying happy in the moment is what matters the most, hence if you are alone still you can be happy, because when you are alone you know yourself, you know what are your strengths and weaknesses are, you know how to stay strong even in the worst situations and you know to find solutions for every problem, you learn to stay strong and brave.
There are some people who face betrayals and double faced people in their lives, and that incident make them lonely, usually everyone feels that people who are alone they can never be happy, no that’s not true, people who are alone can be happy too. We have a mindset we feel that loneliness and being alone is the same thing, no its not, being alone means to have some privacy, to enjoy our personal time, and personal time is as important as social time.
Hence never get confused how loneliness can give happiness . People choose to be alone for some time, because they need their privacy, they need their personal time, they need time to settle in any situation, they need time to know themselves or others better, hence understand that people can live alone happily, people can be alone and happy too.
So why not from today you start making time for yourself to just relax & be yourself and check whether it gives happiness or not ????
And if you are one of those who is afraid or bored to spend time alone , ask yourself
If I am not interested in spending time with myself , why would others be?
So , Do you spend time with yourself?
Let me know what you do in that time in the comment section below 😉
Thank you for reading!